The regret

There are two forms of manifestation specific to the permanent attachments: the regret and the groundless hope.

In the case of the regret we attach ourselves by the past, by an unreality, by a link with an object, a being or a state which doesn’t exist anymore and we want to restore that link how it was.

In this case the false expectation is obvious; each moment is unique and impossible to be repeated because of the infinite number of factors which interact in order to produce it; due to the continuous changes which characterize the creation, it will never be reproduced exactly in the same way.

That’s why it is an absurdity to expect a broken link to be restored exactly how it was before.

Another form of the regret is to consider that, in a given circumstance we could have acted in a different way that we did.
And this is an obvious false expectation, too.



For us to perform an action at a given moment, an infinity of causes work together, producing the effects specific to those causes and not to other different ones.

In other words, at a given moment someone, depending on the psychical limitations, can perform only a certain kind of action and not another one.
We could speak about the so-called “predestination of the moment”.

In a given moment you can perform only a certain type of action and not another one. Of course, in the next moment you can perform another different action; and you can do this because the infinity of causes which contributed to its happening changed comparing to the previous moment.

Each of our decisions and actions performed at a given moment, are not made independently by the rest of the circumstances presented in the System of the Systems at a given moment, but dependably – and strictly dependably - by them.

That’s why to regret that we didn’t act in another way that we did at a given moment it’s a false expectation; at a given moment we couldn’t act differently than we did, because of the infinity of causes which were acting then.

Let’s say that we made something wrong and later we would suffer.

For instance, we fight with someone because of the pride and we have some ribs broken.

To regret the fight is a false expectation; in that moment- due to the circumstances, to the presence in us of the pride and anger and due to the lack of conscience-all we could do was to fight.

This doesn’t mean that we don’t have to learn something from the mistakes we made (even if we don’t regret them-because in that circumstance we couldn’t have acted in another way) and not to repeat them in the future.

In the example from above what we learned was to be more aware and not to let ourselves ruled by the pride or the anger and to realize that where’s a fight ,there are always consequences, too (the pain).
At a given moment we make some choices considering the information and the circumstances specific to it; in the future we’ll take a decision similar with that we took in the past.

The condition for taking another decision, totally different of that we took at a given moment, is to have other information and circumstances than those specific to that past moment.

All the circumstances from a certain moment lead to a certain effect and not to another one (this effect is unique and can’t be changed).

In other words, at a given moment we couldn’t have performed other actions that those we had already performed. (specific to the infinity of causes from that moment); but now, in similar circumstances, we can perform other actions totally different of those previously performed because the circumstances are only similar and not identical.

So, some circumstances changed, allowing another type of action to be performed.

To regret the past means to bear in our psyche a wrong judgment (that’s why the regret is accompanied by a specific psychic suffering); but to learn from the past’s mistakes and not to make them again in the present is a correct judgment.

The past can’t be and couldn’t be changed (the same circumstances generate the same effects and not other different ones); but we can learn from the past mistakes in order to adapt ourselves much better to the present and to the future.